In a world of daily reports of negativity, isn’t it refreshing to hear about some good news for a change? The good news is you have more control over you than you might have thought. You have a world of support all around you. Everywhere you go, everything you turn on, listen to or read, your brain is peppered with people and resources to help you be your “best self.” Has it been so long that you’ve forgotten what exactly is your best self? Was your peak when you were in school, before saying “I do,” before a family of four or at your retirement party? Reflect on what’s missing in seven areas of your life in order to get back on track.

  • If you aren’t at your best at your job, ask yourself what’s missing. Mentorship, motivation or skill level. Asking for help is a sign of strength.
  • What’s missing? Lack of budget, too much debt. Identifying the problem is the biggest step forward in turning it around.
  • What’s missing? Good church home? Loss of belief or spiritual advisor? Bible study or small group. Chances are you already know the problem and solution. Maybe what’s missing is courage to change.
  • The list is long in this area. Exercise, diet, stress and lack of sleep are common, yet doable to overcome. Not easy, yet with discipline and willpower, you’ll feel better almost immediately.
  • Who are you letting into your head and heart? Who and what are you listening to, reading, and interacting with? Change the station. Pretend you’re surrounded by a picket fence. You can still interact with people, just guard who you’re allowing to come into your space. Protect yourself from outside influences and choose your friends wisely.
  • This area is complicated because you’re dealing with people and no two situations are alike. What’s missing could be counseling, letting go of the past or forgiveness. Ask yourself, “What can I do to make this part of my life better?” Trust your gut.
  • This area is the most ignored. When our plates are overflowing, we have a tendency to ignore friendships, fun activities because of finances, and we forget to recharge our own batteries. Think about the airplane and oxygen mask. Adding an element of fun and social interaction is an important piece of your overall health.

If you aren’t at your best, and the problem isn’t showing up on an X-ray, look at these seven areas and identify what’s lacking. Pick three things that you can work on immediately. When you know what’s missing, the path to your best self will come more frequently than just during graduation or an anniversary. It’s that simple.